But Saturn hasn't "struck" yet and it's moving to the 8th house soon. The past 2.5 years didn't feel "bad" at all and I'm not a relationship expert if you know what I mean. So, what am I missing?
Oh Blimey! Saturn is transiting in my relocated 12th house instead! That explains it. Yes, I do look at relocation charts but I must admit that I haven't been looking at mine in the context of transits except for the lookout for the location of the planets in the new place - Ireland to get a sense of the dynamics of my Irish life.
So, Pluto is transiting in my 1st. And conjunct my relocated ASC in Jan 2014 when I started my new job in Ireland, hit the relocated ASC in July 2014 during its retrograde, and hit it for a final time in November 2014. Certainly, there was huge transformation within me in 2014. Everyday literally felt like a struggle for survival at work, I had to dig deep within me and discover resources that I never knew existed within me. And come to think of it, I was more assured of my personal power after the transit. Yes, there were some power struggle that year too. Can I also say that Neptune was transiting my natal MC during 2014...? I will spare you the details of the memorable 2014.
For the relocated birds including myself, look at both the natal chart and the relocated chart for transits!